Creating a routine that keeps you grounded

When you are unemployed, it is tempting to sleep until 10:00 am (or later) and lounge around a good part of the day watching daytime television between job applications. After all, job hunting is exhausting and draining.

Yes, it is, but that is not a good idea.

Unemployed people still need a sense of routine in their lives. A person without a routine is in for a rude awakening once they do land a job and have to adjust to having one.

If you are without a job, how do you create a routine that keeps you grounded during your job search? Your idea of a routine may be different from mine, and your mileage may vary.

  1. Get up at the same time every day, including weekends. (And by this, I don’t mean 10:00 am or later. I mean a time when people with jobs get up.) You did this when you were working, so don’t stop now. You will need this consistency when you have a job again.
  • Sit down in front of the computer and begin the job hunt at the same time every day. This ensures that the job search actually gets done.
  • Set a goal of how many jobs to which to apply each day. Maybe you can only apply to one per day without going insane. If that’s the case, then make one job your goal for the day. There will be days when you don’t find anything for which you qualify. If that happens, just walk away from the computer, have a good cry, and know that you have tried your best. (However, don’t give up until you have been looking for at least a few hours.)
  • You need not eat lunch and/or dinner at the same time every day, but please put some food in your system during days when you job hunt. (I understand that, with many people out of work and SNAP running out of money, you may not be able to eat lunch and/or dinner. If that is your case, please reach out to your local food bank or church.)
  • Remember: It’s okay to have a good cry once in a while.

In a nutshell, what routine keeps you grounded during your job search?

Mending your confidence after job rejections

We have all been there.

You put your best foot forward in your job application, your resume, and your cover letter, only to get that wonderful love letter in your email weeks later that informs you that the company has “decided to pursue other candidates.”

You wonder what these “other candidates” have that you don’t. Or what they can offer that you can’t.

And that is if you get a response at all.

You decide to move on and keep applying, only to have the same thing happen again. In some cases, over and over.

When this happens to a job seeker, it not only erodes their confidence, but can ultimately destroy it. What can a person do to boost confidence in the face of rejection?

  1. Spend time with people who love you. This would not only mean your spouse or significant other (if you have one), but also your family and friends. Tell them about what is happening in your job search, whether it is good or bad. Listen to them when they tell you good things about you (“You are one smart cookie!” “You are such a good writer! I love reading what you write!”) and commit them to memory. They can neutralize the acid of rejection.
  • Participate in hobbies or activities at which you excel. If you regularly score high at bowling, hit the alley. If swimming is your thing, go to the gym, YMCA, or community pool and do enough laps to brag about. Thinking about how good you are at these things will help your overall confidence.
  • Be sure to get enough sleep. This may sound incongruous, but we all know that you need enough sleep to function at your best and look your best, and when you look and function at your best, your confidence increases. It’s a trickle-down effect.

Above all, don’t give up. You can land that job.

What do you do to boost your confidence in the face of job rejection?

Caution: Drainage ahead

Based on what I’ve seen on LinkedIn lately, a lot of people are looking for work—whether they have been laid off, fired, or have just graduated from college or graduate school.

I have to say that I know how they feel, having been in a few periods of job-hunting myself. And I can honestly say that job-hunting drains you.

You search the job boards or company “careers” sites intensely for hours, clicking on a job title that sounds promising, only to read the qualifications and find out that this job is here (holding hand above head) and you are here (holding hand at chest level). Or you find a great-looking one and realize that it is three hours from your home, and you wonder how desperate you are. Your heart can only sink so many times before you break down and cry.

You tailor your resume to the job for which you are applying, and this requires some brain power. You try to make each item under each past job sound not only professional but spectacular. You want to make sure your resume stands out, but you know in your heart that this position is going to garner hundreds, if not thousands, of resumes, and you wonder if a human being will ever see yours.

If you are like me, you write your cover letters yourself, rather than using AI to write them. This can be very tiring, as you must tailor each letter to the position for which you are applying. You jot down in a notebook what attributes in the qualifications you have, and in the letter, you try to highlight each one with professional-sounding, fancy language. You try to accentuate your accomplishments without making the letter too long. And let’s face it—writing the sentence “I look forward to hearing from you” really gets old after a while.

If you are blessed enough to get an interview, you spend a ton of time preparing for it, and after it’s over, you write the thank-you email and wait. Then you follow up a week later. Then you hear nothing. Or you eventually get that love letter in your email inbox informing you that “we have decided to pursue other candidates.”

This is my own experience, although I have successfully landed jobs before.

What’s the most draining thing for you about job-hunting?

I’m not a fan of AI.

There. I said it.

This time I know what I’m talking about, too.

In September, I completed a course called Introductory AI for Editors, which was taught by a seriously brilliant instructor named Erin Servais. In this online course, we students learned how to use AI to perform copyediting, developmental editing (AI is better at editing fiction here), research, and fact-checking. We also explored many of the ethical considerations of using AI in editing.

I am very glad that I took the course, because now I am much more versed in what AI can do, and I know how to use AI to do it. Also, Erin is a phenomenal instructor and her assistant, Katie, gives wonderful feedback on the homework assignments.

That having been said, I am turned off by the use of AI in editing and writing.

For one thing, many people are using AI to write cover letters for job applications now. I think this practice is dishonest. The point of a cover letter is to show the potential employer how well you can write. AI can write a wonderful cover letter (for one of our homework assignments, I had ChatGPT do this), but all it really shows is how well you know how to prompt AI. It’s like asking your brother to write a cover letter for you.

It’s the same thing with blog posts. I want you all to know, dear readers, that each one of the posts on this blog are 100 percent written and edited by me. Many people have AI write their blog posts for them now. Of course, it saves a lot of time, since AI can write a blog post in seconds. But are you really getting to know an editor and how well they work when you read a post that they didn’t even write?

As for the developmental editing of fiction, I have less to say, since I do not edit fiction. However, I really don’t think I would want to read a novel that had been developmentally edited by AI. I want the author to think for himself or herself about character and plot development and such. Or at least I want a human editor to have read the book and make such suggestions.

What do you think of using AI in editing?

Motivated and alone

In my last post, I indicated that this week’s entry would be about how to stay motivated when you freelance and work alone every day. Here we go…

When you are your own boss, it can be very tricky not to go too easy on yourself. Of course, you should not beat yourself up or call yourself incompetent every time you make a mistake. Still, you should not tell yourself that it’s okay to take every other day off or nap during every workday. You need to stay motivated if you want your freelance business to succeed.

So how do you do that?

Probably the most effective thing that motivates me is deadlines. Every project I have comes with a deadline that I had better meet. I am proud and happy to say that I have never missed a deadline in my years of running a freelance editing business. When I receive a project, I plan how much work I will do every day up until the day before the deadline. I always plan to finish a project at least a day before the deadline in order to give myself some breathing room.

Another powerful motivator I have is my husband. He loves it when I work hard. Don’t get me wrong—he’s not the “crack the whip” type. But he does like to see me make money (let’s admit it—who doesn’t like to see their spouse do so?). And when he is happy, I’m happy.

This might seem incongruous given that it doesn’t have to do directly with my work, but getting to the gym in the morning motivates me. Oftentimes, it’s the only opportunity I have to get out of my condo building. And having a good workout or a good swim makes me want to throw myself into work when I get home. (I don’t really know why, but it works.)

If you freelance and work alone all day, how do you stay motivated?

Going crazy working from home alone? Not me.

I am an introvert, so I really don’t mind working alone. It’s just me, sitting at my computer, with minimal distractions. No beeping coming from the office fax machine. No phones ringing (my husband and I ditched the landline in 2010, and I can silence my cell phone any time I want to). And, most importantly, no coworkers having a conversation near my workspace. The only distractions I usually deal with come from outside my window.

I would imagine, however, that an extrovert would go crazy doing what I do. From what I understand, extroverts thrive on the company of other people. (Do they? I have never been one, so I am not certain.)

If I had to give advice to an extrovert who freelanced alone from home, my top piece of advice would be the following: Join at least one professional organization.

This is the best way to avoid isolation. I am a member of the Editorial Freelancers Association (EFA) and American Copy Editors Society (ACES), and I credit these two organizations for helping me meet other editors, interact with them, and exchange tips, advice, and encouragement with them. I have met many independent editors through Zoom webinars, and a lot of them I have never seen, but I interact with them in discussion forums.

The bonus? Finally meeting these editors in person at an organizational conference. I did this two years ago at EFACON in Alexandria, Virginia.

Another tidbit of advice that I would give a freelancing extrovert is to take a break when it’s appropriate. Do something during that break where you interact with others. Write an email to a friend. Call an elderly relative. Just don’t take a break for too long, or you will not stay motivated in your work. Staying motivated will be my next post.

If you feel isolated while working from home alone, what do you do to combat that feeling?

Virtual conferences and me

My first-ever virtual conference took place September 17 to 19. It was for one of my professional organizations, American Copy Editors Society (ACES). It was huge, with over 500 attendees, I believe.

Yet it felt so small, because, like all the other participants, I attended in my home—in my case, in the little office I set up in the smaller bedroom of my condo. And I was by myself the whole time, save for the people on my laptop screen.

Now that I have attended a virtual conference, I can say that there are advantages and disadvantages compared to an in-person conference.

First, it really doesn’t matter what you wear. I wore classy T-shirts, but not the fancy blouses I wore to the in-person EFA conference two years ago. I also wore sweatpants. Nobody could see them. Now, I am a person who works well and efficiently in sweats and T-shirts. Not everybody does, and if you find yourself feeling lazy in such attire, then dress to impress, even if you are only impressing your laptop.

Second, there are much fewer expenses. No airfare and no hotel room. Only the registration fee (which isn’t exactly cheap, but less expensive than the same fee at an in-person conference).

The biggest disadvantage of a virtual conference, however, is that networking is much more difficult—and a large part of the reason people go to conferences is to network, right? VCON 25 had a feature after each day of sessions in which people would enter a “welcome room” and then go into a chat room, where you could see an avatar for each person, hear their voice, and have a conversation. Not a zillionth as much fun as meeting people at a welcome reception in a hotel.

And although the sessions were wonderfully informative for the most part—so much so that I downloaded the slide decks from four of them—let’s face it: it’s tiresome to sit on your chair for hours viewing webinar after webinar or listening to a keynote speech. Especially when your chair is not ergonomic, like mine isn’t.

All in all, I have to say that a virtual conference is all the information of an in-person conference with none of the fun. I don’t think I will do this again.

The boundaries that editors must put up

Two weeks ago, I blogged about work-health balance for everybody. This post is somewhat related to that topic. I’m going to discuss the boundaries that editors must put up regarding their time.

Note that I specifically said boundaries, not walls. There’s a big difference between the two. Walls do not let anything in or out. Nothing can cross them. If there are walls between you and your clients, you are not interacting with them at all. This would, of course, defeat the whole purpose of your editing business.

Boundaries, however, are at least somewhat permeable. When you have boundaries between yourself and your clients, you are interacting with them. The interaction, however, needs to be healthy. That’s why the boundaries are there.

As an editor, you first and foremost need to establish boundaries regarding your time. This means that you have hours when you work and hours when you don’t, and you need to communicate this to your clients in some way, especially if a client is on the needy side. If a client calls you at 8:00 pm wanting to ask questions or discuss an issue, and you shut down your computer at 5:00 pm, don’t give in. Politely explain that your working hours are between 8:00 am and 5:00 pm (or whenever), and that you would be happy to discuss things with them in the morning (if at all possible, give a specific time).

Establishing boundaries regarding your time also includes your breaks during the day. It is best not to answer phone calls from clients during your lunch break, as I learned about five years ago. A client called me while I was heating up some food, and when I explained that I was fixing my lunch, they said, “Is it a hot lunch? I really need to talk to you.”

It is important to note that working late to make a deadline is a whole other animal and is not, repeat, not a violation of one’s time boundaries. I have burned the 10:00 pm oil on more than one project (but thankfully, not too many) and I am not ashamed of it at all. Sometimes this is required, even though the work was planned carefully.

What kinds of boundaries do you normally set regarding communicating with clients?

What I wish they knew

I worked in scientific research laboratories for eight years. It wasn’t easy, given that I have cerebral palsy (CP).

Now, I would like to clarify that my case of CP is not severe—meaning that I do not use a wheelchair or other assistive device, and I am able to speak. However, it does affect my gait and fine motor coordination.

Many (but thankfully not all) of my lab coworkers did not understand what it was like to do experiments and procedures with such a disability. I wish they had known the following back then:

  • It takes me longer to do certain procedures. Not all procedures, but certain ones. I had to work deliberately to load a DNA sequencing gel (boy, is that ever a throwback) so my samples would not disappear into the buffer, or to split cultures of cells (among some other procedures about which I won’t go into detail). I have actually had a boss gripe at me, “What’s taking so long?” more than once. And a professor I once had for a class in cell culture was concerned that I was often the last student to finish working at the end of the lab period.
  • Working with CP is often very frustrating, and so I often grunt when I accidentally tear, drop, or break something because I cannot satisfactorily control my hands. “Stop grunting!” someone will often say. Well, at least I don’t swear.
  • Again, because working with CP is frustrating, I cry once in a while. Some folks may think this is very unprofessional. I think it’s very cleansing. I can’t help if I feel distraught.  However, I don’t let it all out until I have had a chance to go to the restroom.

Like many disabilities, CP is one of those where one says, “If you don’t have it, you don’t get it.”

What are your thoughts?

The balancing act

We hear a lot of talk about work-life balance, and “life” in this case includes our health. After all, we must work in order to earn money for food and healthcare in order to stay healthy, but we need to stay in good health in order to do quality work for our employers.

I have to admit that there have been times in my life when I did not have a good work-health balance, and I learned a lot from those times. Please allow me to share some lessons I acquired over the years.

  • Go to the doctor when you need to. If you feel really sick, call in sick. If your employer requires a note from the doctor, don’t feel intimidated about asking for one. If you go to work while sick, you will definitely not do your best work.
    • Eat lunch. Even if you don’t feel hungry during your designated lunch break, eat something. Your body will thank you later. Don’t take a two-hour lunch, but eat something. (No, I have never taken a two-hour lunch, but I have made the mistake of not eating. I did not do quality work later when I was hungry and weak.)
    • If you have a diagnosed medical condition, don’t skip or put off maintenance doctor appointments because you are afraid of missing work. (You may need to consult the next person up in the chain of command if your supervisor gives you a hard time about this.) After all, if you have been diagnosed with cancer or thyroid disease or anything that won’t be solved in one visit, you won’t be doing yourself or anyone else any favors if you ignore it.
    • Remember that mental health is health, too. Yes, there exists a lot of stigma about going to a therapist or taking psychotropic medication, but when your mental health is good, your work output will be good, too—at least, it has a much higher probability of being good.

    What are your thoughts on the work-health balance?