Let’s talk about beauty magazines for a minute.
I read them when I was a young teenage girl. Specifically, I read Seventeen. (I have heard it said that 14-year-old girls read Seventeen, while 17-year-old girls read Cosmopolitan.) And I learned a lot from reading it.
I learned that you need to use a base coat when you paint your nails. (“Don’t just slick color on bare nails.” Perish the thought.)
I learned that when you get up in the morning, you should do some exercises to “get the juices flowing.” (Sorry. Not before breakfast.)
I learned how difficult it is to start a modeling career.
And I learned what sexual dreams can really mean.
In retrospect, I never liked how reading beauty magazines made me feel when I was a young teen. I felt “less than” because I did not follow the “proper” procedure for doing my nails. I felt inadequate because I had terrible acne that nothing, it seemed, would help. I felt downright ugly because I could not do anything with my hair.
Although I was never unfortunate enough to develop an eating disorder, I could see how such magazines can contribute to that or trigger it. The models on the covers, in the pictures inside, and in the advertisements were so slim, thin, and beautiful, and their bodies were hair-free—waxed to perfection. (The issue of body hair on women is a whole other one that I will not get into right now.)
Suffice it to say that I felt unattractive while reading beauty magazines. I cannot, for the life of me, figure out why I read them for several years. Reading them was a mistake; I should have spent the time reading juicy science fiction novels.
If you are the mother of a teen daughter who is drawn to beauty magazines, please sit down with her at some point and tell her she is beautiful, and nothing will change that. Tell her she is just as beautiful to you as the models in her magazines. Then love her like the beautiful person she is.
