In an academic research laboratory, staff members with disabilities are more common than one might think. I worked in several different research labs in the past while having mild cerebral palsy and a documented mental illness. Some of my supervisors were incredibly patient, kind, and understanding, although they expected no less than my best work (which they deserved). Others, however, simply did not know how to treat other human beings, much less those with disabilities.

Looking back on my eight years in scientific research labs, I have put together a list of dos and don’ts for lab supervisors regarding a staff member with disabilities.

Do try to get to know your staff member at least somewhat. Find out how they like to approach challenges and let them use those methods to solve problems with their work.

Don’t force your way of doing things on your staff member (unless it is crucial for the success of the experiment or for safety concerns). There may be more than one way of performing a method, and your staff member might feel that a way other than yours is easier, more comfortable, and even more effective.

Do be patient with a staff member who tries to work quickly but simply cannot. Avoid telling them to “hurry up” or asking them, “What’s taking so long?” This is ableist behavior on your part.

Don’t say, “Spit it out,” to a staff member who stutters or stammers while speaking to you. Chances are this is a reaction to being bullied by you.

Do take your staff member aside to a private place when you need to give them a “talking-to,” and do so in your indoor voice.

Don’t dress your staff member down loudly in front of their coworkers when they mess up. Nobody deserves this.

Dear reader, what other suggestions might you have for lab supervisors?